From the comment stream at
Jezebel (via TBG) on why people tend to marry partners of the same political persuasion:
‘I'm not someone who enjoys having a spirited debate with the opposition in the bedroom. Basically, my politics are founded on the ideas that women are people, poor people are people, gays are citizens entitled to citizen's rights (like marriage), immigrants are not dissolving our White People social fabric, education and health care should be free and excellent, war is not the answer to “honey, where did I leave my oil?”, and the environment is not a massive roll of toilet paper on which we should wipe our collective asses.
‘If someone disagrees with any or all of that, I am not going to get naked for them or invite them to meet my hippie parents. I don't care if they're a Libertarian, a Republican, or a Morflaxx from the Planet Zoob. Hate the poor? Think my womb should have “PROPERTY OF U.S. CONGRESS” stamped on it? Want to continually bomb the Middle East because you've heard they hate “freedom”? Then we are not going to lock eyes over dinner and decide to give this crazy thing called love a chance. Our first dance is not going to be to Ben Folds' “The Luckiest.” Our first dance is not going to exist. I am going to be too busy happily fucking a guy who has read
The Second Sex and knows how to operate a vacuum cleaner.’
TBG and I recently realized that the defining feature of our friend group — it dawned on us at one of our famous cocktail parties, actually — is that they are all feminists. They believe women are fully-formed multifaceted human beings who function in our culture beyond subordination and sexuality. Those that don't, don't stick around.